My $100 Date Night

Posted by Jeff on September 1, 2010

“A life of leisure and a life of laziness are two things. There will be sleeping enough in the grave.” – Ben Franklin

Disclaimer Note: I’m posting this as my submission to the DadsTalking $100 Date Night giveaway, where one lucky dad (and his spouse) will receive $100 for a much needed date night!

Why we need a date night and escape Chaosville (yes that is a real place)

Well if you lived in our house you’d know why we need a date night, Hell, we need a date week! I see my wife every day online when we chat via Google Talk or call each other to ask if we paid the bills this month.  When we come home we are like daycare teachers and each have one child in our sights and care. Wife who?? Husband who?? Hell no, we only run around the kitchen like manic chefs that ordered too much seafood for kids that only eat see-food! Make ‘em mac ‘n cheese, they want nuggets, make ‘em nuggets they want mac ‘n cheese (but only EZ Mac). Good Lord kids! I remember when I had to eat chicken (ON THE BONE!) or hard-as-leather pork chops (ON THE BONE). And MILK was the only dinner liquid allowed.

Sometimes during this chaos my wife and share glares of disgust and sometimes bump into each other which usually results in us disagreeing about something. The tension levels skyrocket and that is like mixing up a Long Island Ice Tea and chugging it…the end result either way is that someone is gonna get ca-raaa-zzyy!

[If you do not believe me I can post a video if I still have it, I’ll hunt for it and post it if I do!]

 

What Will We Do On Date Night?

Most likely I will chase my wife around and offer her the $100 to to get a kerotin hair treatment if we could spend 20 seconds in bed! Maybe 10 (it’s been 4 years – read above for reason why!)

But in all honesty, my wife and I LOVE our kids and our alone time! We used to spend Friday nights at Barnes & Noble reading books, magazine and sipping Starbucks Cappuccinos. It was great. We would read articles and share what we were reading and even have a REAL conversation with the person sitting across the table, sometimes we would even interlock our fingers! It was a good ‘ole time and we have done that one other time in the past six years and it was amazing and weird that we got to be like “pre-kid” again.

We also enjoy peaceful dinners alone, at a restaurant, where we can ask for more sauce if the waiter brings us too little – just like our kids do. We’ve found a great BYOB place (which helps save us money as we’ve been putting two kids through daycare – one just moved onto kindergarten, but it’s been like a second mortgage) that is very quaint and romantic and it’s great to sit across the table from my beautiful wife and hold hands and talk about things we enjoy – our kids – without interruption. And yes we do, we do talk about our kids and how we can win at least one battle against them!  Haha

 

Here are some other other #DadsTalking $100 Date Night entries that I felt like sharing so my readers can find new Dads to follow and read.

Over on Dad U he writes: http://dad-u.blogspot.com/2010/08/dadstalking-100-date-night.html

JR Reed writes: http://sexandthesingledad.com/2010/08/date-night/

The Better Husband writes: http://www.betterhusbandsandfathers.com/2010/08/my-100-date-night.html

My Weekly Lucky Night

Posted by Jeff on March 12, 2009

Ha! I wish I meant that kind of “lucky night” (i.e., Business Time – watch video)…but unfortunately my lucky night isn’t about having sex…it’s about the evening I get to spend alone with my wife.  Usually once a week my parents (mama and papa) take both kids for the night – picking them up from preschool and dropping them off the next morning. Do I miss my kids??? Not really…well of course I miss them…but I also love the fact that I get to spend alone time with my wife to talk about things, grab a nice dinner alone, and tackle house chores and projects that can’t get done when all four of us are home.

As for our kids, well they really do love going to Mama and Papa’s house (15 minutes away) and playing, watching movies, eating popcorn, getting a fun bath, you name it — they like it. And so do my folks! Sure, my wife and I are probably spoiled because we have my parents around to watch the kids one night a week — no…we are spoiled and WE LOVE IT!

For instance, tonight…my wife and I hit Wegmans (food store) after work to get food for the rest of the week and weekend. Then we hit Victory Brewing Company, Downingtown, PA for  a good meal and beers, we had the Abbey 6 ale. Truly amazing ale! After dinner it was time to head home where we got to do our ‘own’ thing and then off to bed…yeah, I know, I’m lame and posting this from my bed right now while my wife is sleeping.

Ok, I know what some of you will say…but having two kids, sure takes the “energy” out of us and even on our alone nights we spend the time talking about us or fun things. Sometimes we even catch up on missed shows on the DVR.