This Daddy Is NOT Perfect, Either!

Posted by Toolbox Dad on October 8, 2008

Before I came downstairs to work on a few web site projects to earn us a little extra cash, my wife, Cathy, said, “Hey, you haven’t blogged in a quiet a while.” I was thinking the very same thing just yesterday. Sorry, I just haven’t found the ‘extra’ time to do so (if anyone has one of those fancy time stopping devices, please let me know.) I feel bad about not being able to write. I’ve missed it.

I’ve been trying to think up ways that I can post more stories and real life events that I deal with and hopefully can get back into the swing of things now that summer is long gone! I want to be able to share MORE about ME and what I SEE in my kids as they grow up.

Also…

I read a great post by Kim at Jogging in Circles just this evening that really inspired me to write this post. Read Kim’s Post about not being perfect.

I’m Not a Perfect Person, Either!

As Kim wrote in her post, “My life is not perfect. I do not live in an a fairy tale.” Well I don’t live in a fairy tale either. And I’m not perfect. And that doesn’t really matter. What matters is that I can sit here and think about things that are going on right now and blog about them. Blogging makes me stop and think. The MORE I blog, the more I begin to actually change. I don’t want to yell at my kids anymore for the little things they do. I don’t want to argue with my loving wife either. I don’t want to drink beer or get that 60″ Plasma HDTV….wait, wrong post. But what I want to do is be a good daddy. I’m on my way to that….

What I Still Have to Accomplish!

Well I’ve done a lot of different things in my life; a lot of successes!

I learned to crawl, walk, “go potty” sitting down — then standing up, talk, read, write, ride a bike, play soccer, play the trumpet, drive a car, kiss girls, attend college, graduate from college, enjoy wine, travel, have a good career, get married, buy a home, enjoy cooking, watch the birth of our first son in 2004 (very proud Daddy moment). We then had baby #2 in 2006, another proud Daddy moment.

But I am still missing something.

Something that might make me close to being perfect…

Along the way, I don’t think I ever stopped to really enjoy having fun. I mean, I DO have fun, but sometimes it doesn’t come that easy. I feel like I can’t relax when playing with my kids because I’m afraid they might get hurt or something. I don’t know how to laugh out loud, especially when playing with my kids with my wife or parents present. That is probably my insecurities coming out.

But this past weekend my son Logan and I played roll-the-ball out on my parent’s patio and he made me actually laugh. It was a great moment for me! I mean, I was having a great time ROLLING A BALL!!

Once my wife arrived, the kids flock to her (like fruit flies on wine) and don’t let her take a breath. I try and “pull” them off her but they have this weird-clinging-sticky stuff on them that won’t let me pull them off!!It’s like elastic or something, Stretch Armstrong-like. I can pull them off for about 2 minutes and then “ssssnap” they cling back to her.

See, still not perfect, but I try!

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My Daddy Blogging Recipe

Posted by Toolbox Dad on October 8, 2008

My Blogging Recipe

I started this post as part of another post and then my fingers started to type faster than I could think and all of a sudden I was caught writing again. Hey their folks, sorry for the absence from my blog. I’ve just been busy lately.

Anyway, not sure what this post is about, i think it’s just me typing words in a ‘recipe’ format as my mind thinks things up. Let me know what you think!

Daddy’s Toolbox Blog Recipe

Preheat: raise BP to 140/90

Time to cook: depends on elevation of whining, could be 1 min or 1 hour.

Foundation for Chaos

• 1 poopy diaper
• 3 sleepless nights
• 2 whining children
• 5 headaches at work
• 2 grumpy mornings arguing with wife
• 3 stains on NEW carpet from cat yack
• money money money???

Toppings of Love

• 3 hugs and kisses
• 2 artwork from daycare
• 30 mins of yoga or meditation

Begin with the foundation. Mix all ingredients to create chaos. Stir chaos in head for a day. Check consistancy, if still insane keep stirring. Look at stains and clean. When become numb to chaos begin adding toppings.

Add the toppings slowly as you don’t want to ruin anything. Begin with looking at the artwork that your kids made at daycare that day. Smile. Say, “WOW! that is great!” (and mean it!) Then go kiss kids and hug them, do the same with wife. Pinch her butt too for fun! (Smile again!) When you have a thick layer ‘o love spreading over the chaos make sure to keep things sane by relaxing every now and then with 30 minutes of yoga or mediation. Maybe even a blog post or two!

 

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